The College Doula https://thecollegedoula.com Let's Get You Into Your Dream College Sun, 10 Nov 2024 19:27:16 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://thecollegedoula.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/cropped-CD-icon-32x32.png The College Doula https://thecollegedoula.com 32 32 ​​Maximizing Flexibility: Why Applying to College Before a Gap Year Can Make All the Difference https://thecollegedoula.com/maximizing-flexibility-why-applying-to-college-before-a-gap-year-can-make-all-the-difference/ https://thecollegedoula.com/maximizing-flexibility-why-applying-to-college-before-a-gap-year-can-make-all-the-difference/#respond Sun, 10 Nov 2024 19:20:58 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2310

A gap year can be an incredible opportunity for growth, exploration, and new experiences. Whether a student is seeking to travel, volunteer, work, or simply take a break, the benefits of a gap year can be profound. However, based on my experiences working with students considering a gap year, there’s a practical step that can help keep their college options as flexible as possible: applying to a few colleges during their senior year. Here’s why this strategy can make all the difference.

Securing the Option to Defer Admission

By applying to a few colleges during senior year, students have the chance to secure a spot in a college they’re excited about before taking their gap year. Once accepted, many colleges allow students to defer their admission for a year, meaning they have a place waiting for them without the need to reapply. This approach provides peace of mind and a sense of security, so they can fully immerse themselves in their gap year without worrying about navigating the college application process from afar.

Keeping Doors Open for a Smooth Transition

One of the key benefits of applying to college before a gap year is simply keeping doors open. Life is full of unexpected twists, and it’s possible a student may change their mind about the gap year or wish to have the option to start college sooner than anticipated. By having acceptances already in hand, the student can transition to college smoothly, without facing the pressure of applying late or rushing through the application process in a shortened timeframe. It’s all about having options at the ready.

Taking Advantage of Timing for Strong Applications

Applying while still in high school brings certain advantages that can’t easily be replicated later. When a student is actively engaged in the academic environment, their relationships with teachers, counselors, and mentors are current, which can lead to stronger, more enthusiastic recommendation letters. High schools are often more responsive to current students’ application needs than to graduates, making it easier to access support for transcripts, recommendations, and other essential elements of the application. Additionally, students tend to be more engaged and motivated while they’re still immersed in the academic setting.

Fully Embracing the Gap Year Experience

From my experience working with students on gap years—often through referrals from gap programs themselves—I’ve consistently seen how managing college applications during this time can become a lingering stressful obligation that detracts from the purpose of the gap year. Prior students I’ve worked with have found their attention split, preventing them from fully immersing in the experience. A gap year is meant to be a time of exploration, and having college applications hanging over one’s head can limit the freedom and focus needed to make the most of it.

The Bottom Line: Setting the Stage for Success

Ultimately, planning to apply during senior year keeps options open, reduces stress, and allows for a more fulfilling gap year. For students considering this path, it’s a strategy that ensures flexibility and provides a clear plan for the future. By taking care of applications in advance, they’re free to fully embrace the adventure and growth that a gap year offers, without lingering obligations or divided attention.

For any student thinking about a gap year, this approach can be a key way to make the most of both worlds—securing college options and fully embracing the gap year experience.

]]> https://thecollegedoula.com/maximizing-flexibility-why-applying-to-college-before-a-gap-year-can-make-all-the-difference/feed/ 0 Embracing Your Voice: The Impact of Pronouns in College Essays https://thecollegedoula.com/embracing-your-voice-the-impact-of-pronouns-in-college-essays/ Tue, 30 Jul 2024 13:23:37 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2302

Hey there, students!

Today, I wanted to chat with you about something important as you navigate the college admissions process: the language you use in your college essays. It’s something that might seem small, but trust me, it can make a big difference in how your story comes across to admissions officers.

Let’s talk about the pronoun “you.” You might have heard that using “you” in your essays can make them feel more engaging or relatable. But here’s the thing: it can actually have the opposite effect.

When you use “you” in your essays, you’re kind of distancing yourself from your own story. It’s like you’re talking to someone else instead of sharing your experiences directly. And that’s not what we want, right? We want your essays to feel authentic and personal, like you’re having a conversation with the reader.

Using “you” can also make your essays feel a bit generic. It’s like you’re assuming that the reader knows exactly what you’re talking about. But the truth is, everyone’s experiences are different, and not everyone will relate to what you’re saying.

So, what can you do instead? Own your story. Use “I” and “my” to talk about your experiences and feelings. Share your unique perspective in your own words. That’s what will make your essays stand out and resonate with admissions officers.

Remember, your college essays are your chance to show who you are beyond your grades and test scores. So, take your time, be thoughtful with your words, and most importantly, be true to yourself.

I hope this little chat helps as you work on your college applications. As always, I’m here to support you every step of the way.

Take care, 

Meg

]]> Your Responsibility in the Application Process https://thecollegedoula.com/your-responsibility-in-the-application-process/ https://thecollegedoula.com/your-responsibility-in-the-application-process/#comments Tue, 30 Jul 2024 13:20:12 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2297

Hey everyone,

I want to talk about something crucial in the application process: your responsibility.

First off, let’s be clear: applications don’t automatically sync with school forms or recommendation letters. While it’s great when everything aligns smoothly, the deadline for students is non-negotiable. Your application is your responsibility to send out.

It’s important to clarify that your application and the school forms are separate entities. While it’s understandable that you might think they need to go hand in hand, they actually don’t. It’s like two trains arriving at the station separately. Many students aren’t aware that they don’t have to wait for the school to send their documents (electronically). Colleges receive an overwhelming number of documents, so it’s crucial for you to take charge and send your application on time and when it is ready. Don’t wait! And, don’t forget to tell your school counselor when you submitted applications.

I’ve heard the explanation countless times: “I’m waiting for my school.” Trust me, if I had a penny for each time, I’d be rolling in it!

Communicate clearly with your counselor, follow their instructions, and meet their deadlines. Most schools require at least 10 days’ notice before a deadline. That means if you have one of the biggest deadlines in the college admissions process of November 1st, you want to be communicating with your counselor by the first days of October.

Approach your counselor with kindness and gratitude. Fall is a stressful time for everyone involved, so politeness goes a long way. Follow instructions, express gratitude, and remember, your actions pave the way to success.

Keep up the great work,

Meg

]]> https://thecollegedoula.com/your-responsibility-in-the-application-process/feed/ 1 You Should Use Every Bit of Your Application to Tell Your Story https://thecollegedoula.com/you-should-use-every-bit-of-your-application-to-tell-your-story/ Tue, 30 Jul 2024 12:57:44 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2292

Just a quick note about the Common Application activity list. Remember, you don’t need to fill all ten slots like the form allows. Focus on quality over quantity; it’s about showcasing what truly matters to you.

Take the time to add descriptions that offer an authentic, detailed glimpse into your life outside of the classroom. Be honest, be funny if that’s you, and above all, be meaningful.

And don’t be shy about the order! Put the most important activities first. Your story matters, and this is your chance to share it.

Keep shining,

Meg

]]> Reflecting on Academic Fit: Insights from Student Conversations https://thecollegedoula.com/reflecting-on-academic-fit-insights-from-student-conversations/ Tue, 30 Jul 2024 11:11:17 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2287

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share some thoughts from a recent student meeting where we discussed the importance of finding the right academic fit when choosing a college or university. It’s a topic that hits close to home for many of us as we navigate the college admissions journey.

We talked about two key reasons why academic mismatch can be harmful for students:

  • Potential for Major Change: Academic mismatch can lead students to feel disconnected from their studies, which may result in dissatisfaction and a desire to change majors or even transfer schools. Malcolm Gladwell explores this concept in his book “David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants,” where he shares the story of a student who chose Brown University over the University of Maryland, only to find that the academic environment didn’t align with their needs.

  • Dreams Dashed: Academic mismatch can also shatter students’ dreams and aspirations. When students find themselves in environments where they struggle academically or feel undervalued, it can dampen their enthusiasm and hinder their ability to thrive.

During our conversation, one student shared insights from her cousin’s experience at Suffolk University. Despite facing challenges during high school, her cousin found solace in Suffolk University, where she felt valued and intellectually stimulated. Her cousin’s words, “I feel smart here,” resonated deeply, underscoring the importance of finding a place where students feel supported and empowered to excel academically.

As we journey through the college admissions process, let’s keep the concept of academic fit in mind. It’s about finding a place where we feel challenged, inspired, and valued—a place where we can thrive and grow.

Take care,

Meg

]]> Meet Meg Mahoney: The College Doula Bringing Joy and Guidance to the Admissions Process https://thecollegedoula.com/meet-meg-mahoney-the-college-doula-bringing-joy-and-guidance-to-the-admissions-process/ Tue, 30 Jul 2024 10:46:51 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2282

I am Meg Mahoney, and I have had the privilege of playing a seasonal role as an outside reader of applications for Bentley University, evaluating over 1,000 applications to date. This experience has deepened my understanding of the college admissions process and fueled my passion for guiding students and parents through this journey.

My journey into college counseling began after spending over a decade living and working in Costa Rica, Panama and Colombia. During this time, I served as an accreditation consultant and school counselor in private schools. I had the honor of being part of the NEASC accreditation team. Meg consulted with Colegio Gran Bretana in Colombia in 2017 to help them build a college counseling office. There she was able to take advantage of attending International ACAC, Latin America conference, college visits, meetings and resources too. 

Before transitioning to counseling, I spent three years teaching language arts in a public school in Florida. It was during this time that I discovered my true calling in guiding students toward their academic and personal goals.

My husband’s work for the Department of Justice has taken us around the world over the past 20 years, providing me with unique insights into different cultures and educational systems. Now, we have happily returned to Massachusetts and found our forever home on Cape Cod.

Aside from my professional endeavors, my most joyful role is being a mother to my three daughters. In our household, we’re always advocating for more pets, much to my husband’s amusement.

I am grateful every single day to have a job that I love, one that allows me to make a meaningful impact in the lives of students and families. As The College Doula, I am committed to providing compassionate support and guidance to help students navigate the college admissions process with confidence and joy.

]]> Why High School Students Should Avoid Using “You” in their College Essays https://thecollegedoula.com/why-high-school-students-should-avoid-using-you-in-their-college-essays/ Mon, 29 Jul 2024 14:23:38 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2251

Crafting a compelling college essay is a pivotal part of the admissions process, and students must be mindful of the language they use to convey their story. One common mistake is the overuse of the pronoun “you,” which can dilute the authenticity of their narrative and weaken the personal connection they seek to establish with the reader.

Why You Should Avoid Using “You” in Your College Essays

Here’s why students should steer clear of using “you” in their college essays:

  • Maintaining Authenticity: College essays are a platform for students to showcase their unique experiences and perspectives. Using “you” can distance students from their own story, hindering their ability to authentically express themselves.

     

  • Establishing Ownership: By eliminating “you” from their essays, students take full ownership of their narrative and confidently share their personal insights and reflections.
  • Creating Emotional Connection: Effective college essays evoke emotions and forge a deep connection between the writer and the reader. Phrases like “you know” can create a sense of detachment, hindering the emotional impact of the essay.
  • Avoiding Generalizations: Making assumptions about the reader’s knowledge or understanding can be alienating. Students should avoid using “you” to ensure that their essays remain relatable and impactful to a diverse audience.

In Conclusion

High school students should be mindful of their language choices and avoid using “you” in their college essays. By embracing their own voice and experiences, students can craft compelling essays that authentically reflect who they are and what they aspire to achieve.

Navigating the college admissions process can be complex. If you’re seeking guidance or essay advice, The College Doula is here for you.

]]> Why Does Summer Matter? https://thecollegedoula.com/why-does-summer-matter/ Mon, 22 Jul 2024 11:11:38 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=2233

Summertime is an important time for high school students to change gears from the often very intense pace and demanding schedule of high school, and to pursue interests and build experiences not afforded during the school year.  Students build independence, meet other students with similar interests, expand friendships and ultimately learn more about themselves when they plan an engaging summer.  

 For a recent high school graduate, the same opportunity to expand and grow holds true, however, with a special twist.  For a high school graduate, this is the summer of significant change come August. So, what should their summer look like? 

 Parents often ask us what we think their child should be doing post-graduation and we thought we would share some of our advice here.   

 Some families stay the course…and that is okay 

 Even with a child and family heading toward a big life change, many families describe their summer as feeling like any other summer where family vacations take place, their child pursues programs or experiences of interest and stays as busy as they usually were in high school.  For certain students, they have grown accustomed to their busy lives and prefer not to experience the summer ahead of them any differently.  Also, many new opportunities are available to students who have now graduated because of the specialty of the program and the required older age range to get accepted.  And we tell families that it is absolutely okay; we do recommend they discuss with their child the importance of incorporating some downtime over summer (no matter how much or how little they will have), especially after a long, sometimes grueling, high school career and for the inevitable transition that lies ahead. 

 Some families celebrate the moment…and that is okay 

 Other families recognize this summer as special – one in which the activities are no longer aligned to the high school experience, interests and even the college application process.  Previous summers may have been scripted specifically to add to the weight of application and toward a process that values “well rounded” students.  For a high school graduate, no longer is summer tied to the college admissions process (yay!).  Some families take special trips, encourage their child to relax more, schedule less and enjoy the moment.  It is important to some students to connect with friends more often since high school is now over and everyone will go off in a different direction come August.   

Some families plan for a different summer altogether…and that is okay 

 Other graduates are eager to find work to save toward the expenses and fun of being at university where they previously did not seem to have time to work.  Your son or daughter could also focus on career exploration and connect to internships and opportunities that again may not have been available to them at a younger age.  Many times, the ability to drive to and from and officially volunteer or intern at places that were not previously allowed offers new direction and experiences. 

 A friend Cathy said that when she thinks of her daughter Leah in high school, her strongest memory is of her sitting at the dining room table studying. Cathy and her husband truly wanted Leah to relax and enjoy her time especially before entering the Coast Guard Academy. They insisted she slow down and enjoy a summer of freedom. 

 Another friend Carson says they felt compelled to spend time together as a family versus squeezing in more things that would “help our girls get into college”.  She also made sure that they planned for dedicated time at the end of the summer to prepare for the sendoff.   At times, she said she felt a sense of panic on whether she and her husband had fully prepared her girls to live on their own.  Throughout the summer, she remembered sharing every tip she could think of, “to boil water faster, put the lid on,” “keep on top of your laundry, it is better done in small increments” and “never ever walk alone at night.” 

 Whether you want your child to stay the course, take some time off or celebrate in a special way, remember that you know what works best for your family and your child.  Let them take the lead in what an ideal seems like for them, help them to prioritize the summer in a way that emphasizes the uniqueness of the summer right after high school.  Then plan for what works best for the family overall. We encourage you to trust what feels right and value what is important for you.

This blog post was originally published in College Raptor.

]]> The Best Parts Are Yet To Come https://thecollegedoula.com/best-parts-are-yet-to-come/ Mon, 14 Feb 2022 17:30:59 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=1948

Today is a sweet day to come back to the office after traveling to New Hampshire for my niece’s wedding. Her attention to detail– starting with her creative hashtag (#whitemountainlove), to a locally harvested meal with delicious options for all, and blankets and cozy socks available for guests–was noticeable at every turn of the ceremony and reception. She admittedly loved planning her wedding but what was truly impressive was when things didn’t go as planned, she smiled and rolled with it! After reciting her vows to her now husband, he was overcome with emotion and bear-hugged her and her veil fell to the ground! We all laughed of course, however, it was the bride’s grace, smile and poise that inspired this journal entry. Her team of best women put the veil back in record time. Even the best-laid college admissions plan will have an emotional, possibly sloppy, funny, disappointing, or unexpected moment. Like my beautiful niece, students need to embrace it all and enjoy the ride, because in the end, the best parts are yet to come.

]]> Why the Name “The College Doula”? https://thecollegedoula.com/why-the-name-the-college-doula/ Tue, 01 Feb 2022 14:44:03 +0000 https://thecollegedoula.com/?p=1853

I love the name too!

I happily give credit for The College Doula™ name to a dad. I worked closely with his daughters throughout their very different college journies, supporting this family as they navigated the college admissions process. 

After building close relationships with both girls and intimately understanding their unique needs and goals, their father told me that I had come into their lives when they needed it most, providing expert advice in real-time, emotional reassurance, advocacy, and delivering results & encouragement. He said, “Meg, you are the College Doula™!”

This name is a deep compliment that truly resonates with me. Not only will I ensure your success as an expert project and process manager, but I am your guide, believer, and advocate. By creating a personalized program just for your family, I provide the compassionate, professional support you need each step of the way, empowering you to feel calm and confident throughout the process. 

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